Narcissistic Abuse

Having had an extremely difficult childhood, I later realised that my mother exhibited narcissistic traits. Like many who have endured this type of abuse, I found myself moving from one narcissistic relationship to another. Leaving home at a relatively young age, I moved in with a partner who was extremely toxic.

I experienced gaslighting, sustained manipulation, isolation from family and friends, boundary violation, blame-shifting and constant criticism – just a few of the many challenges these relationships bring. 
 

These experiences left me feeling utterly confused, with brain fog, flashbacks, nightmares, hyper-vigilance and a profound mistrust not only of others, but also of myself. I had no idea who I was anymore, what I liked or even what it felt like to be happy. Narcissistic abuse is insidious; it doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it is a sustained drip-feed of put-downs and toxicity. The person you thought was your soulmate ultimately drains your sense of self.
 

Others wonder why we don’t leave. Friends and family may not understand, although most of the time, we spend our energy defending our abuser’s behaviour to those around us. We do not leave because we feel that we cannot live without them. They are not like this all the time; there are breadcrumbs of kindness sprinkled in. Just enough to keep us hanging on. We are often told that it is our fault and that they were not like this in previous relationships. This creates a trauma bond with our abuser, making it difficult to see a way out.
 

In my search for help, I reached out to counsellors to make sense of why I was trapped in this cycle of abuse. Unfortunately, many of the counsellors did not seem to understand my experience. I searched for someone to help me, but they never seemed to quite "get it". One therapist even suggested I "pray to a higher being" for help. At that point, I felt beyond help.
 

Upon qualifying as a counsellor myself, I knew I needed to specialise in Narcissistic Abuse. Who better to support you than someone that has been in the very position you may be in today? After years of research and the privilege of supporting clients heal from mental and sometimes physical abuse, I have gained a very deep understanding of this personality disorder. 
 

You do NOT have to be alone.

It is NOT your fault.

You CAN leave and never go back.

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If you feel that I can support your healing journey, please do not hesitate to get in touch.